Grown Girl Confessions
The mirror test
Everybody has a list. This is the part where you find out if you're on it.
Two minutes. Nobody sees your answers, so tell the truth.
Part one
Standard or preference?
A standard is about character and how you get treated. A preference is about taste. You're allowed to have both. The problem starts when a preference is sitting where a standard should be.
Part two
Now the mirror.
For each one, slide how much you want it in a partner. Then slide how true it is of you right now.
Your results
aligned with what you're asking for
Where the gap is widest
The pink dot is what you want. The black dot is where you are. The space in between is the work.
what you want where you are
Read next
Triggered
by Ashli McCoy
This quiz showed you the gap. Triggered is the part where you find out how it got there, and why you keep choosing the same thing while asking for something different.
Book two of The Return to Her Series.
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